Tuesday, December 5, 2017

Keeping the Home Fires


"Because of our traditions, we've kept our balance for many, many years. Here in Anatevka we have traditions for everything... how to eat, how to sleep, even, how to wear clothes. For instance, we always keep our heads covered and always wear a little prayer shawl... This shows our constant devotion to God. You may ask, how did this tradition start? I'll tell you - I don't know. But it's a tradition... Because of our traditions, everyone knows who he is and what God expects him to do."


Two days after Thanksgiving, in between basketball practices, the tree crew arrived.  Matt and Ryan were hard at work out of doors where November took a deep breath before winter and permitted farmers time to finish harvest, or apply fertilizer, or rebuild terraces and cut brush, and encouraged those with Christmas spirit to hang greens and lights before the calendar turned.  Those of a more prosaic and tidy nature postponed these more ethereal tasks for the mundane physicality of leaf raking and winterizing.

No matter.  On all counts, the pursuit of these enterprises aligns neatly with at least one definition of 'tradition', be it "convention", or "custom", "upbringing" or "practice". As Tevye proclaims with great solemnity, "Because of our traditions, everyone knows who he is and what God expects him to do."

The year 2017 has been an echo chamber with terms like "unprecedented" and phrases like "this has never happened before" ringing off the walls of the public sphere.Whether or not there truly is a first time for everything,  it is comforting to come to the Advent season and march the well trod path of Scripture toward the Holy Child in the manger.

"The stockings were hung by the chimney with care..."

Is there a more well worn, but never old, tradition than hanging out stockings?  I bought Blake his stocking before our first Christmas: a standard issue model of synthetic red and white fuzz, it is man-sized, the relevant characteristic as far as Blake is concerned.  Mine, stitched with glass beads and sequins, was created long long ago by some friend of my grandmother's; three tiny red white and blue bells hang from the sole, possibly designed to warn Santa if one were to sneak a peek before Christmas Eve.  As it turns out, my mom also gave her granddaughters cute embroidered stockings when they were little.  This allowed me to retire the felt sock I'd made when Lee was a baby...but just for a little while as I pulled out the L and last E of the name and recycled it with a new B and N for Ben a few Christmases later.










It wouldn't be Christmas without someone mentioning Kenzie's BIG stocking and Ben's tiny one...
 

I love the stockings....they bring back happy memories of Christmas Eves past...the nights we would visit Grandma Nelson's house where the kids would bounce on the mountain of winter wear on Grandma's bed and the aunts and uncles and cousins would eat cheese and crackers and cookies and candy in the kitchen.  There would be pop for the kids and an open bottle of Maneschewitz wine on the counter....something I hadn't seen since I washed communion glasses as my duty during confirmation class in Orland Park....Grandma's house was overheated from all the family inside;  a plume of steam escaped each time someone went in or out her front door. On those Christmas Eves, we would ride back home through the starry night to the sound of Iowa high school Christmas choirs on KMA...the Westboro version of the heavenly host.

By then, the hour was late, but there was still one task to do after the kids were in bed: while Blake managed to eat just one more Christmas cookie and drink a glass of milk (Santa's ), I'd lay out each stocking atop the bags of goodies Santa had picked out for each family member.  The house was as quiet as Silent Night and putting out the little presents was a labor of love, the dark a fitting prelude for the joy that would come in the morning....


Tradition!  Means cookies!  In anticipation, we throw the kitchen drawers open wide in search of the cookie cutters and stretch the definition of Christmas to the nth degree in order to include our favorite shapes.  Of course there are Santas to dress in red and white and angels in gold and leaping brown reindeer to munch when one or more legs break off in the frosting.  There are bells in every hue and stars in every size and Christmas trees to trim with chocolate chips and an avalanche of sprinkles.  The old tin cutters from my mom and granny include the ever popular Christmas moon...the "poinsettia" that looks more like a sunflower...and a great big leaf I have dubbed the holly while placing three red hots for the berries.  I am fairly certain we have expanded the repertoire of Christmas cookies with the Christmas dinosaur...and why not?  There is, after all, a big pink thunder lizard on our tree.....















We decorate. We bake. 
We celebrate....
 
....and we worship...


  Tradition brings us to the Christ Child's manger bed as shepherds, as part of the angelic host, as wise men from the east and the innkeeper with no room.

Sometimes Mary and Joseph have worn long underwear with chickens roosting overhead and sheep crunching hay.



And sometimes Mary and Joseph are shepherds themselves over a very lively live Nativity.


  Being a part of the Christmas story indoors or out; hearing the words of Luke echo through the church as the piano plays and bells chime is part of our Christmas tradition.  Grandma Millie created many of the costumes  from drapes and sheets, scarves and scraps. Now her great grand children carry the shepherds' staffs and sing in the children's programs during Advent. 

“Tradition is not the worship of ashes, but the preservation of fire.” 



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